Insecure on HBO: Girlfriends & Group Dynamics

Insecure on HBO: Girlfriends & Group Dynamics

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By now I’m sure you’ve at least heard of the show Insecure on HBO. This innovative show was created by Issa Rae and Larry Wilmore. Based loosely on Rae’s web series, Awkward Black Girl, the comedy-drama follows Issa and her best friend Molly and their friends as they navigate life in Los Angeles as black women. Now at the end of its second season, the show is wildly popular with millennial and melanin folks everywhere. Sunday nights are “lit” on Twitter as people live-tweet the episodes and share their thoughts and predictions.

SEE ALSO: Demetria Lucas D’Oyley Insecure Episode Review

In examining the story lines and characters deeper, I recognize the 4 types of girlfriends women may have in their crew. Below I examine each one. Check them out and see if you can relate.

Insecure on HBO: Girlfriends & Group Dynamics

The One Who Does Good for the Community, but Can’t Get it Right For Herself…
Let’s call her Issa. Professionally she’s making headway and trying to help the kids in the community at the nonprofit “We Got Y’all.” However, personally she’s a mess. Spiraling out of control with no answers on how to get back on track. Her love-life is…lacking and confusing. Issa, girl, get yo’ life [back in order]! Truth be told, each of us has been in Issa’s shoes. You remember that time you tried to recover from heartache by doing the ABSOLUTE MOST. You charged ahead in life in all the wrong directions. You took two steps ahead only to fall three steps back. Issa is mad-confused this season. Here’s to hoping she figures things out soon.

 

The One with a Great Job Who Fakes Her Happiness…
Let’s call her Molly. She has a “great” job as a lawyer, so she thinks. She’s making money and doing things for herself. However, her outside joy is hiding an inner pain and longing that expresses itself through unsavory decisions. Molly wants happiness so bad that she is willing to fake it until she makes it. That’s one way to handle it, but is it working for her? You have at least one girlfriend like Molly, right? If not, maybe you are the friend people would identify as “Molly” — you have a great job, no relationship and you’re secretly hiding your pain. Sound familiar? I could be Molly…without the great job.
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The One with a Free Spirit Who Gives Zero —— a.k.a. “The Free Spirit One”
Let’s call her Kelli. She is always “down for the cause” or event or party or drinks (DRANKS!). She brings the fun aura wherever she goes. She’s funny, pun-ny, and petty (when needed). Kelli is your one friend who consistently (and boldly) throws caution to the wind and lives her life the way she wants to live it. Look at your circle. The “Kelli” in the group is easy to identify. She not the “loud one;” she’s the BOLD one. Which one of your friends fits this description? Is it you?

 

The One with a Husband and a Good Marriage…
Let’s call her Tiffany. She got the man…and, he put a ring on it! Yassss, hunty! From the outside looking in her life looks swell. She’s doing things and happily supporting her man while finding time (ok, some time) to spend with her girlfriends. Others look at her and want what she has, but they fail to realize that everything that glitters may not be gold. Your circle may not include a married member, but there’s certain to be one who is in a relationship or engaged to be married. Does she have her “ish” together? Do the others low-key envy her?

 

Insecure on HBO: Girlfriends & Group Dynamics
And, of course, we all know a few Lawrence-type guys. Maybe you dated him after college. Maybe you married him in your 20’s. Remember the guy you supported while he stayed home and “worked” on finding his professional calling in life. You even moved in with him. And, now that you’re no longer together he moved out, got a job and is living his life “like it’s golden” – or so it seems. Although, your relationship had ups-and-downs, if he called you TODAY, you’d answer the phone on the second ring (the first ring would look too desperate 🤣). That guy…is a Lawrence-type guy.

 

This group of friends is tenacious. They hold each other down by supporting one another. They work together to survive and thrive in everyday life. Groups normally have a leader. Who do you think is the leader in this group? As with any group dynamics, there are negative and positive moments and situations. We’ve seen this play out in both seasons of Insecure. Through it all, Issa and her friends are the core of the series and remain a close group.

 

If you’re not locked into Insecure on HBO, what are you waiting for?! It airs Sunday nights at or around 10:30 PM Eastern (9:30 Central). Get HBO and get your life. Don’t worry, HBO recently announced that Insecure will return for a third season. Yippee!
What do you think? Which Insecure Girlfriend are you? Let me know in the comments below or tweet me @monaspoeticwax.

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I'm a female who enjoys french fries and everything associated with them. I am a foodie, a carb lover and someone on a mission to lose the extra pounds. At the core of things, I am a storyteller. Professionally, I’m a marketer. I write about food, exercise, traveling and events. I am a daughter, sister, aunt and friend. Welcome to my life…one post at a time.

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  1. Patranila

    I haven’t seen a single frame of this show but I’m glad Issa’s out there creating work for folks and showing black life that’s not pathologized or idealized. From what I’ve heard, of course!

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  2. Tyra

    I have heard this is a great show, and at some point I need to get on this! I like what I have heard about the girlfriend dynamics.

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  3. EG III

    I used to watch awkward black girl on YouTube back in the day but never got around to checking out insecure..I need to get on top of that!

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  4. Kiwi

    Le Sigh! I am totally Issa at times…man its crazy! I love Insecure the the television series personifying millennial black issues at its core.

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  5. Hally Heart

    I don’t watch Insecure, even after numerous of people have recommended it. But after reading post like this I’m more inclined to see what I’m missing out on. What’s the worst that can happen?! I hate it? Thanks for sharing, love.

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  6. Nikia H

    Every time I watch this show I see myself and my friends as the characters and try to figure out which one I am. I’m definitely a mixture of both Issa and Molly.

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  7. T. Michelle

    I’m probably one of the few black folks who’s never seen this show, but I definitely know a few folks who fit your descriptions. I might have to finally check out the show. LOL

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